Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Along the Lonesome Trail

Ras, Old man G.W., and Dan Stapp 1929 in Texas
I never knew my father's Uncle Ras, but I know from the  letters and the pictures that I've pieced together that he was a collector of our family memories: of deaths, of dances, of calf roping, and hunting.  His life was full for 82 years.

Ras was the ninth of the thirteen children born to George Washington Stapp and Mary Alice Austin Stapp.  He was born January 23, 1894 in Boone County, Arkansas.  He was named Ras King for the doctor who delivered him, and more than likely the first child to be born with the help of a doctor.

The next three babies born to to GW and Mary Alice died within a year of birth, but number thirteen Virgle Roland Stapp was healthy.  He was born December 20, 1902 and lived 81 years.

Sadly, my great grandmother, Mary Alice, was not healthy after giving birth to so many children and living a rugged life.  Ras remembered moving from Boone County, Arkansas across the border to unnamed land called Oklahoma.  During this move and unsettled time three babies were born and died.  Mary Alice was too sick after Virgle was born to care for her family.  Ras writes, "No matter how frail and sick ma was she read her Bible to us every night.  When she couldn't read, we took turns reading out loud so she could hear God's words."  In the end she knew was going to die so she begged G.W. "Take me to Texas.  I don't want to die in this lonesome land. "  G.W.  loaded up his children and wife into the covered wagons, taking mules, chickens, and a few belongings and headed south to Texas.  Ras recalled that the older children took care of the younger ones and the boys hunted for food daily.  The journey was even harder with their mother.  "We spent many days stopped along the trail," Ras wrote in a letter, "because ma was too sick to move.  When she felt better we'd start again."

"When just inside the Texas line from Oklahoma lands, I don't know what part, ma became so sick we had to stop again.  Ma gathered all us kids around her bed and talked with us and said prayers before she died.  I can see it like it was yesterday.  We dug her grave and buried her just off the wagon trail in a little grove of post oak trees.  I always wanted to go back and look for it as the years went by, but never made it back."  There was no gravestone set upon her grave.  Her request was granted.  She died in Texas on October 25, 1903 only ten months after giving birth to her thirteenth child.  Ras was only nine years old when he left his mama's grave.

8 comments:

  1. Ahhh! I knew you were a Texan! We can sense this sort of thing.

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  2. What a sad account. Times were really hard then. RR

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  3. I share the trait of collecting family stories too--like your Uncle Ras did. I find them so interesting. I'm reasonably certain that we visited Ras's grave. I think we took a picture of it--I usually take pictures of the graves when we find them, and we always leave some flowers too. By the way, I love your blog; it's very interesting. I like your writing style, and your writing has voice---verrrry nice; you are quite talented. (I like writing too.) HS

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    1. Hello, we are 2nd cousins, once removed! Thanks for sharing this. Do you have other stories from Ras? I always thought great great grandma died around Talihina, OK.

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    2. Hi there,
      I am Martha Stapp Owens McMichael's great granddaughter. That makes us 2nd cousins, once removed. I always thought Mary Allice died around Talihina, OK on the trip to Texas. Do you have other stories from Ras?? Do you know parents of Mary Allice?? I am the family historian here and have been unable to find them.

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  4. My Father in law Omer Stapp was Raz' nephew. Virgle O'Neal was his Dad. It is nice to hear more stories about the ancestors of my husband, children, and grandchildren. I am trying to collect that type of information for my grandchildren to pass on to their grandchildren. Thanks for posting it!
    Phyllis Alane Rogers Stapp

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  5. So happy to hear this story of my husband's family, your family. I am interested in collecting and passing down the stories to my grandchildren so they can pass it down to their grandchildren. My grandfather in law was Virgle Roland, father in law Omer Odell Stapp, husband Travis Dartenyon Stapp. We have 3 boys and 5 grandchildren thus far. Wow, just yesterday I was having babies, now I have a legacy. Hmm. Anyway. Life happens so fast, no wonder the details of the ancestors get lost. If you have any other stories about them, I would be interested. I can share what stories Omer can share with me.
    Phyllis Alane Rogers Stapp jinkorama@yahoo.com

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  6. Dear Phyllis, I'm thrilled to see other family members find this story, and to know that you are searching for stories. You have a perfect connection with Omer because he knows so many old stories. I've collected a few and thought I'd posted some other stories but maybe not. Helen Lemmons has the complete genealogy of the Stapp family, and I will by this summer have a Ancestry family tree developing on that site.
    I will keep looking for stories and finding ways to post them, too. I know I have a collection of stories from the move the family made to Texas nearly 100 years ago. I'll see what I can do to copy and preserve them and send them to you my email. Thank you for finding this story and sharing.

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