Monday, January 31, 2022

Chilling Words

 

January 5, 2022

Even though the sun was shining that morning the bitter North wind slapped me with a cold chill.  I knew what I would say or do when the orthopedic doctor said, “Yes, we need to replace that left knee.”

“I’m ready. Let’s get it on the appointment books now.” I imagined saying.

My last cortisone shot had not lasted three months before the pain and swelling returned. My plan was to get ahead of the spring and be well by May, so I could enjoy a carefree summer and a trusty left leg that would support my golf swing.

The doctor studied the x-rays, talked at length about my prior injuries and then said, “I think you might have better luck if we treated your knee for arthritis by prescribing Celebrex.”

I sat in silence.

The doctor leaned back in his chair and waited. His head cocked he smiled, “Did you want the surgery?”

“No, No,” I nearly screamed. It came out so suddenly. “No, I simply had a plan to get ahead while I could, so I would be healthy come spring.”

My mask could not contain my smile. “So, I don’t need surgery?”

“If you are ok with treating the arthritis, then let’s use meds and save the surgery for the day you really must have it.”

Skipping out of the clinic, swinging my mask in the air like a winning rodeo rider, I didn’t notice the cold wind as I stepped in my car. Inside, bun warmers on, life was good.

The blaring phone shook the car.

“Letty, this is Joan from Dr. Shaw’s office. Your test result for Covid 19 is positive. He has prescribed meds that will be available for you this afternoon, and you will be eligible for the infusion if your symptoms worsen.”

So much for planning.

It was so innocent, our four-year old grandson sneezed while we played with the blocks. No vaccine can stand up to the snotty nose love of a grandchild.



Thank heavens for vaccines and booster shots. I cannot imagine how sick I may have become had I not taken these precautions.

With Jack's asthma and my lungs that are susceptible to pneumonia, I had secretly worried about how badly we might be affected by Covid 19 and its variants.  I was right to worry. 

Neither of us struggled much in the first few days. By the weekend I could tell I was wearing down. On Monday the hospital called to say that the infusion was available for me. 

I began coughing as I talked. He said, "We have an opening Tuesday at 10:00. You sound like you highly qualify and you are over 65. I recommend you come in." I agreed with no argument.  

I slept through the infusion. Jack picked me up and took me home. We treated ourselves to fresh cookies from Dara Maria's and hot tea. I slept through the afternoon and into the evening.  Wednesday I repeated the sleeping pattern. By Thursday I began to feel better. 

With both of us fighting the virus, it was the napping and lethargic nature of the beast that was difficult to live with. We also craved flavor. Our taste buds felt like they had been scratched off our tongues. We could smell, barely. We could taste, barely.

Nearly a month later, we are both doing very well. Best of all the meds I took to fight the virus also fought my inflammation from arthritis. Glory Bee! My left knee and knuckles are not swollen. As my mother would have said, "There is a silver lining to every cloud." 


 


Monday, January 17, 2022

READERS IN THE ROUGH: A Guide to Great Books for 2022

Our book club, Readers in the Rough, began meeting in the summer of 2017. We normally meet to discuss the books at The Trails Golf Course in Norman, Oklahoma, consequently, the beautiful view of the golf course prompted our book club title,  "Readers in the Rough."  We rate our books based on the language of golf and quality of literature. This rating system has been revised and discussed from time to time, as nothing is quite perfect.  We absolutely enjoy our lively book discussions and ramblings about life, and like the game of golf we read and discuss for fun and friendship.

In golf, par is the expected score for the best players. A novel or memoir should be the same way. 

A Par rating meets the expectation of the elements of fiction: a solid plot, strong and dynamic characters, setting that is defined, a theme we can discuss along with a point of view that lends itself to telling the story, and strength of genre. A Par rating for memoir asks for a compelling story using truth, theme, voice, point of view being I, and an ongoing attempt to arrive at answers

**All members of the Ladies Professional Golf Association and Professional Golf Association regularly play par and below rounds. 

At the end of each monthly discussion we talk through the rating briefly giving books thumbs up or down, or sometimes we gently struggle and argue between ratings, based on our perceptions. In the end, the majority wins with the votes. Ironically, our Hole-in-One and Eagle rated books are usually unanimous. 

The Hole-in-One rating is reserved for only the best of the best, in our opinion, and one that we would reread, rave about and encourage others to read. It must meet all of the criteria of an eagle, birdie, and par.

**People I  consider Hole-in-One Golfers are Annika Sorenstam, Babe Didrikson Zaharias, Patty Berg, Tiger Woods, Arnold Palmer, and Jack Nicklaus. 

Our only HOLE-IN-ONE novel this year is FOUR WINDS by Kristin Hannah homepage.




Texas, 1934. Millions are out of work and a drought has broken the Great Plains. Farmers are fighting to keep their land and their livelihoods as the crops are failing, the water is drying up, and dust threatens to bury them all. One of the darkest periods of the Great Depression, the Dust Bowl era, has arrived with a vengeance.

In this uncertain and dangerous time, Elsa Martinelli—like so many of her neighbors—must make an agonizing choice: fight for the land she loves or go west, to California, in search of a better life. The Four Winds is an indelible portrait of America and the American Dream, as seen through the eyes of one indomitable woman whose courage and sacrifice will come to define a generation.


An Eagle rating says it is superb, exciting, and well worth reading. It meets all of the requirements for par and birdie, plus it is a book we will long remember for perhaps different reasons. We would highly recommend it to others.

**People I consider Eagle Golfers are Mickey Wright, Se Ri Pak, Karrie Webb, Ben Hogan, Sam Snead, and Seve Ballesteros. 

Only one book made our Eagle rating this year--The Rose Code by Kate Quinn homepage


1940. As England prepares to fight the Nazis, three very different women answer the call to mysterious country estate Bletchley Park, where the best minds in Britain train to break German military codes. Vivacious debutante Osla is the girl who has everything—beauty, wealth, and the dashing Prince Philip of Greece sending her roses—but she burns to prove herself as more than a society girl, and puts her fluent German to use as a translator of decoded enemy secrets. Imperious self-made Mab, product of east-end London poverty, works the legendary codebreaking machines as she conceals old wounds and looks for a socially advantageous husband. Both Osla and Mab are quick to see the potential in local village spinster Beth, whose shyness conceals a brilliant facility with puzzles, and soon Beth spreads her wings as one of the Park’s few female cryptanalysts. But war, loss, and the impossible pressure of secrecy will tear the three apart.

1947. As the royal wedding of Princess Elizabeth and Prince Philip whips post-war Britain into a fever, three friends-turned-enemies are reunited by a mysterious encrypted letter–the key to which lies buried in the long-ago betrayal that destroyed their friendship and left one of them confined to an asylum. A mysterious traitor has emerged from the shadows of their Bletchley Park past, and now Osla, Mab, and Beth must resurrect their old alliance and crack one last code together. But each petal they remove from the rose code brings danger–and their true enemy–closer…


A Birdie rating meets all of the criteria of a Par plus it creates excellent discussion based on a powerful theme, or other elements of fiction.

**People I consider Birdie Golfers are Kathy Whitworth, Nancy Lopez, In Bee Park, Bobby Jones, Roy Mc Illroy, and Phil Mickelson. 

This year we read eight books worthy of a Birdie. The most powerful personal discussion took place over STATE OF TERROR by Louise Penny and Hillary
Clinton. 

Louise Penny homepage







  

BIRDIE:
Tuscany, 1944: As Allied troops advance and bombs fall around deserted villages, a young English soldier, Ulysses Temper, finds himself in the wine cellar of a deserted villa. There, he has a chance encounter with Evelyn Skinner, a middle-aged art historian who has come to Italy to salvage paintings from the ruins and recall long-forgotten memories of her own youth. In each other, Ulysses and Evelyn find a kindred spirit amongst the rubble of war-torn Italy, and set off on a course of events that will shape Ulysses's life for the next four decades.



BIRDIE:
In 1960s Florida, a young Cuban exile will risk her life--and heart--to take back her country in this exhilarating historical novel from the author of Next Year in Havana, 










BIRDIE
: (Memoir) Recounting both family lore and family secrets, Bobby brings us four generations of indomitable women and the men who loved them. There’s Bobby’s mother, who traveled solo from Belarus to America in the 1880s to escape the pogroms, and Bess’s mother, a 1970s rebel who always fought against convention. But it was Bobby and Bess who always had the most powerful bond: Bobby her granddaughter’s fiercest supporter, giving Bess unequivocal love, even if sometimes of the toughest kind. Nobody Will Tell You This But Me marks the creation of a totally new, virtuosic form of memoir: a reconstruction of a beloved grandmother’s words and wisdom to tell her family’s story with equal parts poignancy and hilarity.





BIRDIE:

This collection of stories is a translation from Japanese, which lends to a more authentic voice. All of the stories in Matsuda's collection are based, loosely, on traditional Japanese stories of yōkai, ghosts and monsters that figure prominently in the country's folklore. But Matsuda puts her own clever spin on them, and each of her stories feels original and contemporary. Where the Wild Ladies Are is an audacious book, a collection of ghost stories that's spooky, original and defiantly feminist.

BIRDIE: The three mystery books we read this year each received a birdie for intrigue: The Mystery of Mrs. Christie; The Woman in the Window; and No Shred of Evidence. 


In December 1926, Agatha Christie goes missing. Investigators find her empty car on the edge of a deep, gloomy pond, the only clues some tire tracks nearby and a fur coat left in the car — strange for a frigid night. Her World War I veteran husband and her daughter have no knowledge of her whereabouts, and England unleashes an unprecedented manhunt to find the up-and-coming mystery author. Eleven days later, she reappears, just as mysteriously as she disappeared, claiming amnesia and providing no explanations for her time away.

The puzzle of those missing eleven days has persisted. With her trademark historical fiction exploration into the shadows of the past, acclaimed author Marie Benedict brings us into the world of Agatha Christie, imagining why such a brilliant woman would find herself at the center of such murky historical mysteries. 

Agatha Christie novels have withstood the test of time, due in no small part to Christie's masterful storytelling and clever mind that may never be matched, but Agatha Christie's untold history offers perhaps her greatest mystery of all.

BIRDIE:

Anna Fox, once a successful child psychologist, lives alone in her Harlem townhouse spying on her neighbors, mixing psychotropics with red wine, watching old films—Hitchcock’s Rear Window, which this book is loosely based on—and chatting on message boards. Early on we learn that Anna suffers from agoraphobia (fear of crowed spaces), brought on by a traumatic incident, rendering her unable to leave
her home without having a panic attack. 

When a new family moves in across the street from her front window, Anna begins watching them through her camera lens. Then, one night, she sees a terrifying crime occur in one of their bedrooms. But here's the twist: Anna, who has been drinking and popping pills all might, can't prove that what she saw really happened. And no one, not even the police or her neighbors, believes her. 

The trailer is available on Netflix: Woman in the Window

BIRDIE:


Early Autumn, 1920 – In Cornwall, four young women take out a rowing boat on a fine autumn afternoon—but before the afternoon is over, a man will be dead, and these four young women will be accused of his murder by the only witness to his death. Because their fathers are prominent men, Scotland Yard is called in to find evidence of guilt—or innocence. But the inspector dies shortly afterward, and Rutledge is sent to take his place. His notes are missing, and Rutledge must follow a cold trail that leads nowhere. Complicating matters is the fact that one of the young women accused of murder is the cousin of the woman Rutledge had hoped to marry in 1914, a world lost to war.  It appears he can’t save them, because the only evidence he can find points to guilt. Until he discovers that there are the barest hints of something else in the shadows, a tenuous thread that will take him over half of Cornwall before he can tell where it may lead…and whether it will help or damn the accused.


Par rating meets the expectation of the elements of fiction: a solid plot, strong and dynamic characters, setting that is defined, a theme we can discuss along with a point of view that lends itself to telling the story, and strength of genre. A Par rating for memoir asks for a compelling story using truth, theme, voice, point of view being I, and an ongoing attempt to arrive at answers

**All members of the Ladies Professional Golf Association and Professional Golf Association regularly shoot par and below rounds. 


Par:
Secrets told in the church ladies room are supposed to stay in the ladies room. But that doesn't mean that what Trudy overhears there during her great-aunt Gertrude's funeral won't change the rest of her life. Because the setting is in Tishomingo, Oklahoma the story prompted fun discussion of small towns and romance we only dream about. 




Par: 

She (Carrie Fisher)  needs an assistant. He needs a hero.

Charlie Besson is tense and sweating as he prepares for a wild job interview. His car is idling, like his life, outside the Hollywood mansion of Kathi Kannon, star of stage and screen and People magazine’s Worst Dressed list. She's an actress in need of assistance, and he's adrift and in need of a lifeline.

Kathi is an icon, bestselling author, and award-winning movie star, most known for her role as Priestess Talara in a blockbuster sci-fi film. She’s also known in another role: Outrageous Hollywood royalty. Admittedly so. Famously so. Chaotically so, as Charlie quickly discovers.

Charlie gets the job, and his three-year odyssey is filled with late-night shopping sprees, last-minute trips to see the aurora borealis, and an initiation to that most sacred of Hollywood tribes: the personal assistant. But Kathi becomes much more than a boss, and as their friendship grows Charlie must make a choice. 


Par: Curious how secrets can drive a book and a good book discussion.


Meet the picture-perfect Bird family: pragmatic Meg, dreamy Beth, and towheaded twins Rory and Rhys, one an adventurous troublemaker, the other his slighter, more sensitive counterpart. Their father is a sweet, gangly man, but it’s their beautiful, free-spirited mother Lorelei who spins at the center. In those early years, Lorelei tries to freeze time by filling their simple brick house with precious mementos. Easter egg foils are her favorite. Craft supplies, too. She hangs all of the children’s art, to her husband’s chagrin.

Then one Easter weekend, a tragedy so devastating occurs that, almost imperceptibly, it begins to tear the family apart. Years pass and the children have become adults, while Lorelei has become the county’s worst hoarder. She has alienated her husband and children and has been living as a recluse. But then something happens that beckons the Bird family back to the house they grew up in—to finally understand the events of that long-ago Easter weekend and to unearth the many secrets hidden within the nooks and crannies of home.


A Bogey rating means a book may meet some of the elements of fiction, but overall the book is not strong enough to gather our full attention.  We would not recommend it for discussion.

For all of the accolades and secrets, we didn't find this novel one we'd recommend.




A Double Bogey rating means don’t waste your time reading it. This year we didn't read any books that fell in that category.  


If you like to read please click on the links below for other great reads.

Great Books to Read in 2021

Great Books to Read in 2020


***Looking forward to 2022 we will be reading:

January--The Ladies No. 1 Detective Agency by Alexander McCall Smith

February, 15--The Henna Artist by Alka Joshi

March, 22--The Lincoln Highway by Amor Towles

April, 19--The Reading List by Sara Nisha Adams

May 17--The Dictionary of Lost Words by Pip Williams

June, 21--Meet Me in Bombay by Jenny Ashcroft

July--Daisy Jones and the Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid

August--The Personal Librarian by Marie Benedict and Victoria Christopher Murray

September--A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemingway




Tuesday, January 11, 2022

In Company with Friends 2021

How Covid19 brought us together in 2021 is really quite simple. Two events added to our lives immensely: friends gathering, and traveling.  Once we were vaccinated (later boosted) our lives felt a tremendous relief, like an opening in the clouds. 


In June, Manon Bradbury and Victor Kubbeh visited from California. The rains of the day sent us to the  National Cowboy and Western Heritage Museum  rather than the golf course, and it couldn't have been better. The Prix de West exhibit brought awe to our conversations with the vastness of the West, the colors of the skies, the land, the waters, the details found in a small spaces, the reflection of color, the movement of animals on canvas, sculptures that seemed to fly to jump, the portraits that stepped out of the picture and shared their stories. A day of delight ended in a home cooked meal, conversations about life and memories.  Our friends were on their way north the next day. Ten thousand miles and three months later they arrived home in LaQuinta, California. Imagine the stories they can share. 


Yes, my friends and I were overly enthused about the opportunity to play Oak Tree National this spring, thanks to a package I bid on in a fundraiser. When that spring day turned to winter, the four us said sure we can play in the North Wind and enjoy it. Even the pro mentioned that the pros from Southern Hills, Cary Cozby and group had cancelled. Not us.  

We played a zesty nine holes and laughed out loud as we tried to play our shots into the wind, downwind and not into the water or other hazards, or topped the ball down the fairway. After nine holes we were worn out and drug ourselves into the golf shop. Steve Kimmel, congratulated us and handed me a new coupon to play the course again when summer arrived. We took him up on the offer, sat down for lunch and listened as Steve regaled us in golf stories about Oak Tree. We returned in July on a warm nearly perfect day and still laughed ourselves silly. Shows you how much fun four women can have hitting that tiny round golf ball.  

Jack and I managed to play as much golf as time, yard work, and stiff joints allowed. 

September brought more friends and memories. Kathy and Jim Thomas from Hutchinson came down to play golf and tour a few museums. Once again the art and sculptures at the National Cowboy and Western Heritage Museum left as spell bound. I can't imagine life without art to remind us of who we are, who we were, and of all of the creative spaces in between. 





We then toured the Oklahoma City Memorial Museum for the first time. How can I describe it, as we had no words in our vocabulary to explain the events we all witnessed in 1995.


When Pat French arrived we never slowed down. Another visit to the Oklahoma Memorial gave me the opportunity to read more about the event and learn of its aftermath.  The touching tribute to the people who lost their lives will live with us forever. 

The big event, of course, was not the golf course, which was fun, but the
football game between Nebraska and the University of Oklahoma. Pat bought herself tickets close to the fifty yard line, while we sat in our corner seats above the ponies. 

It was over a decade ago when we made the drive to Lincoln to watch our Sooners take on the Cornhuskers. Pat could give you the dates and scores of all of the games and who played what.  I can send you to the website. I remember the people, the stadium, and the walk around campus. Memories.....


Looking at the wagon ruts in the Red Rock Canyon. 

Stormy, the bison observed by Ruth Ann and A.J. 

Lucky for us we also get to be grandparents to Lora and Tony Walenz's grandchildren who live not far from us. Not only do we get to visit with the kids but we also get to see more of Tony and Lora, our friends from Hutchinson. Lora and I often play golf together here in Norman or in Hutch. Miles and years apart only make friendships deeper.

My sister, Jonya, officially retired from full-time teaching Spanish in June, which gave us opportunities to be together.  In October we went to Miami, Oklahoma for her 51st Miami High School reunion. Many of her classmates had older brothers and sisters in my class of '65, so the reunion was sweet for me as well.


Driving home we took Route 66 to Tulsa and spent an afternoon at the Will Rogers Museum. History is so enlightening but the old movie of   Will Rogers' Rope Tricks  kept me glued to the screen watching over and over. I would like to have enjoyed dinner with Will Rogers. As he said, "I do not make jokes. I watch the government and report the facts."

In Tulsa we stopped for two nights, so we could visit friends from years gone by, and of course, eat our way through current conversations and memories. On the last day of our travels, we played golf at Cedar Ridge Country Club with Rebecca Mirjanick Davis. Our father taught all three of us to play golf.  Rebecca and I were in awe of the natural rhythm with
which my sister swings on the golf course. Jonya didn't even have a matched set of clubs, caused from thirty years of not playing golf. Rebecca loaned her clubs as needed, and then helped her select the right club for the shot. Jonya's natural swing out shined anything Rebecca and I could have hit that day, and we've played for forty years and more. It was a thing of beauty, one of God's many ways of giving us gifts and grace. What better way to end a season of golf than to see three grown and graying women play golf together, as they had sixty years before. (Ok, so now I can cry.)   

Mirrors reflecting art in and around people. 


On a lighter note, four of us from our Readers in the Rough book club traveled to Dallas to see the The Van Gogh Immersive Show. I've never witnessed art coming to life like modern technology can create. The walls move in out and around with Van Gogh's wheat fields, skies, furniture, sailing ships, and portraits. Find a site near you and go...2022 it's worth the drive if you can just imagine. 



We next toured the Van Gogh exhibit of Olive Trees and science at the Dallas Museum of Modern Art. We topped off our trip with a night at the Warwick Melrose Hotel, and spent Friday touring the George W. Bush Library and the gardens at the Dallas Arboretum. We were four women without children, and I believe we enjoyed the pumpkin patch with nearly the delight of the little ones. 

Letty, Leah Jackson, Susan Allgood, Rowena Shuma






My wish for you is to enjoy everyday of 2022, and take time to enjoy lunch with someone special.