Showing posts with label Memoirs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Memoirs. Show all posts

Monday, July 1, 2024

My Story--The Fire 1984

 

 


          It was 4am before the flames were high enough to rouse the neighbors.  Sirens rang as truck after truck sped through the streets to reach the raging fire.  The neighbors stood in nightgowns and thrown together layers of clothes, starring in awe as the 1927 Tudor structured clubhouse burned out of control like an angry lady poking a stick at mad dogs.

          With water hoses surging full blast from all angles, photographers shot pictures of the fire in the night, while word spread throughout Miami, Oklahoma that the club was burning.  Shortly after sunrise it became clear that flames had reached the fifth floor and were screaming through the roof.  Windows had exploded floor by floor, and the town had turned out to see the event, like a circus train unloading lions and tigers.

          It wasn’t known how or when the fire started on if anyone was inside.  The housekeepers from time gone by no longer lived on the fourth floor.  Cars had sometimes been left overnight by members too drunk to drive.  Had the men gone home or stayed behind to win a hand of cards?

          For me, the club was like a home, my touchstone of who I was, who I could be, and eventually who I would become.  We moved to Miami, Oklahoma in 1954 a few years after the flood of ’51.  As a child of five my greatest regret was that we missed the flood, but oh did I ever soak up the stories and seek out proof of flood lines on homes at every outing.

Ladies on the practice green on the north side of the country club.1960's

          My dad was the golf pro at the Miami, Ok. Golf and Country club  and the greatest teacher I would ever know.  In turn, I played golf and loved the fresh air, but it took hours of my life to prepare for tournaments.  Practice was my life as a teen, whereas, my sister was a natural and still has an easy flowing flawless swing. (I must confess we both worked hours on the practice tee. Golf is never easy, even for a person with natural swing.)

 

1967 South-side main entrance with our blue station wagon that would take me to college in 1967 sits to the left of the entrance.

         I went to work in the golf shop at thirteen.  Tuesday through Saturday I opened the shop by sun up in those summer months.  From 2:00 till dinner I played or practiced my golf game. By the time I was a full-fledged teenager I had very little time to drag main, shop with friends, watch “As the World Turns”, or date. What I did have were the friends I made at golf tournaments in those years and the experiences of playing at the highest level of junior golf in 1960's before Title IX.

          Part of me always wanted to be like everyone else, but the other part was willing to stand alone and just be me.  I didn’t know who me was or would become.

          At nineteen, 1967, I left home for college at LSU to complete a teaching degree. Being immature, thinking I was smarter than my professors, I came home in the summer of 1968 married and left home for Ft. Hood, Texas.  Five years later I was a mother of a beautiful child, but divorced, uneducated, and alone. I left home again, and worked my way through college and degrees.  As a librarian, teacher, and mother I began to entertain and teach through storytelling and puppetry.  And we laughed.

          The stories told, laid the next layer of asphalt for the road I would take.  I found those universal truths of stories to be healing for the human spirit.  Listening to the laughter of the crowd rejuvenated me.  Listening to my daughter mimic me as she retold those stories to her dolls and friends, also made me realize how our children watch in detail our every move.

          It was the stories that led me home that weekend the club burned.  On a Sunday July 16, 1984 I drove from Norman, OK in a green Toyota loaded with kids, puppets and books and drove straight to the club.  I needed to feel the soil of my soul and show my children a part of me.  On the horizon I saw only two chimneys.  One four story chimney stood in the center of the broken brick shell, ashes smoldering, people still standing rows deep in the drive way watching. The second chimney stood alone on the west side of the building that connected the dance floor and porches to the main building.  Fire trucks and traffic blocked my entrance.

 

North-side from the putting green.

          I parked on the street and walked quietly cautiously toward the smoldering structure, my broken lady. My children ran ahead. 

 

July 23, 1984 Dad, Johnie Stapp, myself, daughter Katy Rains, and stepson Michael Watt.

     When my father saw me, the tears he had held off since the wee hours of the morning fell down his cheeks in rivulets flowing haphazardly.  The hugs and tears came from all directions.  All any of us could do was stand, stare, until at last we began to share.

          On Monday after teaching summer school at PSU, I returned to the club and parked near the yellow tape on the south side.  I followed the tape around a giant circle to the north-side and the entrance to the pro shop.  No lives had been lost, but, oh, so many memories danced in the clouds.  I stood outside the yellow tape. Then I heard a choking voice coming from the ashes that were heaped where the golf shop once stood, supporting the lofty building. From an angry grumble I heard these words,  “Where are you?  I know you’re here.  You’ve got to be here.”

          Quickly, I crossed the line and hollered, “Who are you?  What have you lost?”

          A deep angry voice returned, “It’s John.”

          “Dad?" I rushed through the door frame,  "I thought you were at home.”  

     Stepping into the ashes of golf shop door, I saw a bent over white-haired man swinging a rake wildly at a pile of ashes.  I thought for a moment his khaki jumpsuit was streaked in blood, but my imagination was vivid and dried red paint had the same effect.   Then I realized it was another man, named John, not my father. 

          “Oh my gosh, John, this is Letty Stapp, the pro’s daughter.  What have you lost?”  I asked fearfully.  He stopped, turned at me, and hollered,  “I’ve lost my putter.  She burned up, but I know I can find the mallet head.  Come here and help me, now.  You know where my bag was stored.”

          With two of us digging, and my clothes already covered in ash, we found the mallet head, no wooden shaft, no grip, nothing else to be retrieved.  With rake and mallet in hand we walked to the outside of the ropes and behind the yellow tape.  No words were spoken as we turned to look at shell.

          At last I said, “You know she was my home, my touchstone.  I can see myself and your children, all of us up there in the attic playing and spying on the world below.”

          “It was my home, too,” he replied.  “My father, James Coleman,  and George Coleman had her built.  I grew up there.  I know every nook and corner like the back of my hand.”  One by one we shared our stories through tears and laughter that spanned six decades.  Secrets had been shared.

          Then he placed his arm around my waist and said, “I’ve always said a man is just as old as the woman he’s touching.”  I laughed, for he was known to be a fox around women, but I knew that for a few moments in life we were both younger and shared a deep feeling for a burned out building called home.

 

*A true story by Letty Stapp Watt, as told for three decades on storytelling stages throughout the Midwest. 

**Later that week John Robinson drove to the farm where my parents lived and asked dad to remake his mallet head putter. It took a few weeks before my father found a wooden shaft that would work. 

***Sadly, my mother had finished updating the Miami Ladies Golf Association scrapbooks and delivered them to the ladies locker room a few days before the fire. Without pictures in that scrapbook I thought I had lost a part of me, but the memories floated back easily. In retirement, I took up the mantle (or mallet head) and wrote the history of my club from 1916 to 1984.

****Luckily, the club rebuilt and there are more stories to share. Click on this link to read our history: Miami, Ok. Golf and Country Club Stories

Sunday, June 8, 2014

My Writing Process Tour


One day while enjoying the spring sunshine in the backyard of our new home in Oklahoma, I read an email on my Iphone from Linda Hoye asking me to participate in a writing process blog.  I was stunned and honored that someone as well known as Linda, through her work with Story Circle Network, would consider me in this venture.  I immediately went inside, turned on the computer to read more.  By Googling “My Writing Process Tour” I was thrilled but intimidated by the well-known authors, such as Dian Curtis Regan, who have been part of this international tour.  “Yipes,” I mumbled, “I can’t do this.  I’m not a professional writer.”  The minute those words went through my mind the challenge line was drawn. 

I’ve never met Linda, but I know her well through correspondence, and writings.  In her work with Story Circle Network she’s encouraged me to write more and to submit my stories.  On her blog “A Slice of Life Writing” she gives glimpses of her life.  Weekly she shares “Photo Friday” where she explores and shares her life through stunning photos.  She has published a new memoir Two Hearts: An Adoptee’s Journey through Grief to Gratitude.  On her website you can read more about her memoir and other writings. 

What am I working on?
Two pivotal karmic events have occurred in my retirement years that have led me to this blog and these questions.  I took a class called “Who Let the Blogs Out?” from my friend Rosemary Miller.  I merely wanted to learn about blogging, like what was this thing??  Instead, with her encouragement I set up my blog that day and literally began my new adventure in writing in 2010.  Since then I’ve committed to writing http://literallyletty.blogspot.com/ weekly, writing about a moment in time that has sparkle and life to it. I also knew deep down inside that I had heaps of stories to tell but not the writing skills to make them enjoyable for an audience.  It’s so much easier to orally tell my stories than to write them, but my goal was and is to be a better writer and eventually turn my stories into completed books.  

So what am I working on, my blog stories.  Look for future stories on: Nadal, the focused gorgeous body of a man who lights up the tennis court; The Golf Gypsy and friends;  the Lady who Sculpts Hands; or my Readings and Greetings.  Even though all of my blogs are on the internet, I copied each one to make a yearly book for myself so I can see my progress in literally learning how to be a better writer.  Now the stories that bobble in my head have an outlet, and I can now hold those stories in my hand and my heart.  
   
The other karmic moment happened when I took a three day workshop on Memoir Writing from Lisa Dale Norton http://lisadalenorton.com/.  By the last day I was hooked.  I’d found that child in me who had grown up in the golf shop, where my father was the golf pro, and I spent my years observing every member, every action, and every reaction. 

“Boggies Don’t Win” will one day be a completed memoir.  To say I’m working on it now, is not quite true, but my childhood story stays in my heart every day, waiting on me to give myself permission to finish it.  The idyllic childhood days have all been written, even the early teen years are finished, but then I hit a brick wall when the tumultuous years of golf tournaments, peer pressure, sex, alcohol, and my place in the world all collided.  I know the truth, but can I tell it correctly or will I soften it?  When I can deal with those questions I will be completing my memoir. 

Why do I write what I do?   
I write my blog to share light and uplifting stories that resonant in many of us.  I occasionally have to deal with depression in the winter months, and so I’ve found that by focusing my energy on writing on the lighter side my depression disappears, and
Rabbit's know to exit here.
sometimes a friend leaves a comment that lets me know I’m on the right path. If I have a writing muse, it's our Lucy dog, who drags me on long walks, and whose nose can sniff out a good story to tell.

I began my memoir with the intent of honoring my parents and all of the many club members from the Miami Golf and Country Club (Miami, OK), who influenced my life.  My father was seriously burned as a fourteen year old, and as a result his hands were clubbed.  Thanks to a dedicated doctor and nurse my father did not grow up to be the janitor like people thought he might, since his hands were useless except to hold a broom.  Instead, his hands learned to hold a golf club, and his life was forever changed. Those are the stories yet to be shared.

How does my writing process work?
In my dream world I’m organized and work on a schedule of writing every morning for an hour before the world awakens and then venture off into a new day with my husband, dog, or friends.  The reality is random writing times work for me. The best days are when I awaken just at dawn with the birds chirping, and then stay in bed allowing my mind the freedom to wonder, to imagine, to dream, to create.  On those days I can write, take notes, explore techniques of writing, and read.  My mind is happiest when it’s being challenged by a story that needs to be told.   
   
The actual writing process used to take place on yellow legal size pads.  I read and acted on nearly every idea in Julia Cameron’s book The Right Way To Write.  Her style and process matched my mind.  One day when I’d written a rather sensual scene I read it aloud to my husband at lunch.  He smiled.  I asked him to bring home a stack of colored legal sized pads after work, so I could write more.  That evening he brought home six colored pads and a new laptop, just for me, not for paying bills, not for reading the Drudge report.  So now I let my fingers follow my imagination and don’t stop to correct or change my words until I’m out of story.  Then I go back, delete, change, edit, and save, but some days I hit ‘don’t save!’

Through blogging I’ve met new friends.  Now I’d like to introduce you to them.
Michelle Pond


Michelle and I met on the golf course, and immediately discovered that we both love to write.  Then I discovered that she is a poet and a photographer who likes sports, jazz, and art inspired by other art.  Since 2001, she has attended and/or volunteered with a bereavement support group; and grief is a recurring theme in her poetry.  She has collected some grief poems into a chapbook, I Keep You With Me.  Her work also has appeared in Thorny Locust, Rusty Truck ezine, and the Salon anthologies, poetry from Kansas City's longest running open mic.  Her visual art pieces that combine poetry and photographs have been exhibited at The Writers Place and PT's at the Crossroads. Her poetic blog site is http://mapoetpoems.blogspot.com/  "Buried Lies", a poem posted on May 22, 2014 is one of my favorites.  I wonder what favorites will be found as new people explore her sight?


Renee Hutchins Roberts (R.H. Roberts, Writer and Speaker)


Renee and I met this spring at the Oklahoma Writers’ Federation, Inc. conference,  We
Renee Roberts
chatted, exchanged cards, listened to the speaker then parted ways.  She recently found me through face book, and we are now getting acquainted in the small world in which we live. 


As a busy mother of six children Renee began writing while pregnant with her last child, as a means of preserving her sanity. That I can fully understand.

As a result of her decision to write she is the award-winning author of The Underwater Witness Protection Program, Gypsy Moon, and Jellica’s Pot of Gold.  Her website is   http://rhroberts.com/home/.   On her blog she shares fantasy thoughts:  Happy is boring.  Characters should be driven by obsession, guilt, an unreachable dream.  A quest for happiness?  Well, that could work.;  walks in nature; adventures in writing; traveling stories.  You can find her blog at  http://rhroberts.com/blog-2/  How fun making connections with new friends through a common thread—writing.  


Vicki Adrian

Vicki and I share a common thread--we love to laugh, make other people happy, she loves to buy neat clothes for her boutique, and I love to shop there and buy those items.  I've written about her on my blog  http://literallyletty.blogspot.com/2012_10_01_archive.html and about the small town
Vicki Adrian and Ann Armstrong
where her store has thrived for nearly three decades, Buhler, Ks.  Her blog is about foods and recipes that delight our taste buds and about the connectedness of living in a small town.  Recently, at a writing conference (OWFI) I sat at a table with three women from Wichita, Ks and rather than connecting through writing we connected through shopping at Adrian's Boutique.  It might be easier to go to her blog to find out why people love her store and her smile http://adriansboutique.com/.  Most recently, Vicki is branching out to create a new blog.  Stay turned to her site for further development of a new idea.