|Baby Helen and mother Pearl Weaver in Ardmore Ok.|
My mother, Helen Stapp, like her mother Pearl, wasn't afraid to change the course of her life. Her father, Tobias Weaver drilled for oil near Bartlesville, Ok when our state was Indian Territory. He then made his way to Indianapolis to marry Pearl Clendening, a young school teacher. The family moved on to the oil fields around Lansing, Michigan where my mother was born.
Their next home was Ardmore, Ok where Tobias moved his
|T.B. Weaver and Helen at Turner Falls.|
As a child, I remember driving from Miami, Ok to Wichita to visit grandparents and cousins. We often drove through the refinery area around Augusta, Ks, and I would hold my nose and say something like "Pew Wee...That stinks." Mother smiled and turned to me and said, "I grew up loving that smell because my father said it was the smell of money."
My mother met dad through his sister Della when both women
|Johnie and Helen Stapp, May 1946|
Dad's life as a golf pro in Santa Anita, was glamorous for my mother, but family called them back to Kansas a few years after I was born. My sister, Jonya, was born in Independence, Ks. We both grew up and call Miami, Oklahoma our true home.
I was forty-two when my mother died suddenly from Septic Shock at St Francis Hospital in Tulsa, Ok. The story of her death is the moment a miracle happened in our family. Through her death a life was saved, her granddaughter, my daughter Katy.
The full length story of mother's miracle can be found in the book Everyday's a Miracle. Author, Paul Robert Walker, listened to my story when he was visiting Norman Public Schools in the early 90's. He asked if he could write and publish it in his book. With a gracious smile I said, "Please do." Mother's story "An Opening in the Clouds" can be read on pages 144-148 in Paul Robert Walker's book called Everyday's a Miracle (Avon 1995). I think you will find this true story comforting, along with the other stories in his book.
Everyday's a Miracle This book can be purchased for pennies on Amazon.
Paul Robert Walker's website