Friday, August 4, 2023

GOLF GYPSY: MORNINGS IN THE GOLF SHOP

1962 the last girls team to win Oklahoma High School State Championship before girls golf was no longer supported by the State High School association. 


        Being the only girl golfer in my high school class, 1965, tended to set me apart from others. In the golf shop, Old Bill most certainly stood apart from everyone.  In my teen-aged eyes he was an old bent man, who worked hard, did his job, then went home. His face was shaven closely, his eyes set deep below his brow, leaving him to appear as if he continually cast his eyes downward. How was it I wondered that his cheeks could appear soft, unblemished and nearly youthful, when his body told another story?

        He wore heavily starched and uniformly pressed khaki pants with a matching long sleeve shirt every day, no matter the weather.  By ten o’clock in the morning he was wet down his back from sweat, and often his sweat smelled like pure garlic.  The hotter it became during those summer days the shorter his temper grew at me and towards many of the club members.  I didn’t understand why it was so important for me to be “kind” in my thoughts and words, when that didn’t hold true for Bill. 

 One evening when my dad and I were out chipping and picking up range balls I asked, “Dad, why is it that Old Bill is allowed to grumble and be rude to people, and I’m not?”  My father showing no attempt to be patient, tilted his head downward glaring at me, and exploded, “Tizzie!" Dad's eyes nearly teared up in his anger,  "Bill saw action during the War in the Pacific. You will never understand what he has been through."

Time hung in the air as I stood at attention. My father continued, "He is retired now, and his pension does not provide enough for Bill and his wife.”  

“Wife,” I interrupted!  “Some woman is married to Bill?  He stinks to high heavens; can’t you smell him when you walk into the shop?”  I’ve never been one to think about my words before they spewed from my mouth. 

I saw the growl forming on my father’s face before I heard his words, “This man will work for me as long as he needs a job.  Don’t you ever say another word about him.  That’s final!” Our lessons about World War II were not in the textbooks.

1967 North View of the Miami Country Club

          In the stifling heat of the summer, the golf shop repeatedly reeked of “Old Bill” and his ancient cures for aches and ailments.  Finally, one day, when I knew Dad wouldn’t be in the shop for another hour or more, I turned to Bill and in a kindly manner, “Bill, I know it’s miserably hot here.  I sweat just like you, but you smell like garlic and sometimes like rotten eggs.  Why?”  In defense of my teenage ignorance, I had often heard the women golfers complain about Bill’s body odor.

 One time I remember LaRue Gaines (Mother of Steve and Cassie Gaines, who died in the 1977 plane crash of the Lynyrd Skynyrd Band.) marching into the golf shop after a round of golf and a few beers. With a swirl of her body and arms flattening on the glass display case separating the costumer from the employee, she flippantly remarked to Old Bill, "Why is it, we come in from a round of golf in this heat only to have you, the golf shop, and locker rooms smell like garlic?” 

Bill mumbled something like, “You don’t smell so sweet yourself!”  Then hunched his shoulders, and turned his back to walk off. I watched LaRue's nostrils flair and then surprisingly, I heard a high pitch giggle like a horse neighing, and she smarted back before he could leave the room, “Well, at least you won’t ever catch any germs smelling like that.”

          Standing solidly, I awaited his reply. He turned, lifted his chin and looked her square in the eyes,  “I ain’t ever been sick in my life." With an awkward grunt he continued, "Working in the public like this puts lots of germs in the air.  I don’t ever go to the doctor for medicine ‘cause I wear this garlic pod around my neck.”  Clutching his chest his deep set brown eyes starred down at me, and for a minute he almost smiled.  

    LaRue turned to her left and exited down the two giant steps to the basement and the cool air of the ladies locker room. 

In that moment, the character, Penrod, in  Booth Tarkington's book that my eighth grade teacher read aloud to us, flashed back to me. My eyes and mouth both popped open. I popped off to Old Bill, but this time sincerely stating,  “I thought just old timey people in stories wore things like that to ward off sickness.  Does it really work?”

“Seems to work." His voice stopped. After a gulp of air he continued, "Ain’t never sick, neither’s my wife,” he replied. 

“You mean your wife wears garlic, too?” I asked incredulously. 

With each word spoken like a directive, he replied. “No." Again a long pause as if he needed to think of the next sentence. "She don’t go out much, but she cooks with garlic, and we eat our greens every day.” 

          I had to ask, “Can I see it?  What does it look like?”  Without answering he walked to the back room with me following like a little puppy dog begging for a bone.  He unbuttoned his heavy khaki shirt part way to reveal another heavy men’s white t-shirt equally wet and smelly with garlicky sweat.  He pulled up on a cord that hung around his neck, and out popped a pouch made from cheese cloth and sure enough inside the bag were several pealed fresh ripe pods of garlic. With curiosity killing me, I wanted to ask a dozen more questions, but thought maybe I should let the subject drop.  Mom constantly coached me on appropriate behavior, “Just let the subject go, Letty. Tomorrow’s another day.” 

Friday, July 21, 2023

Mary Quant Lives On


Granddaughter playing dress up, thank you Mary Quant.

The headlines read "MARY QUANT, MASTERMIND OF SWINGING '60'S STYLE, DIES" 

London (AP) Mary Quant, the visionary fashion designer whose colorful, sexy mini-skirts epitomized London in the 1960's and influenced youth culture around the world has died. She was 93. (Norman Transcript, Sunday, April 16, 2023) 

.... Some compared her impact on fashion world with The Beatles' impact on pop music. 

Mary Quant definitely made an impact on me and my mother-in-law (at the time), master seamstress, Rose Rains. Just like Mary designed clothes at the right time, I, too, became Rose's daughter-in-law at the right time of fashion.  Shortly after I married her son, Don, she wrote me a letter asking me to give her my body sizes, according to her description.  I could sew, but not without a pattern. Rose could create her own pattern. I had to ask around in those days to find out exactly what Rose wanted measured and then my neighbor helped me fill out Rose's request.

My first few outfits, hand made for me, were Nehru suits with high neck collars like the Beatles wore. 
I felt fashionable for the first time in my life. 

That was followed by yellow plaid patterned "Elephant Pants." She had taught me on a trip back to Miami how to match plaids and lines. Not an easy task for someone who likes to see the end in sight early in the project.





Quant, who named her new skirt after her favorite make of car, the Mini, recalled how it offered a 'feeling of freedom and liberation." From her shop on King's Road in London's trendy Chelsea neighborhood, she was part of a clothing revolution. "It was the girls on King's Road who invented the mini. I was making clothes which would let you run and dance and we would make them the length the customer wanted." She said, "I wore them very short and the customers would say, 'shorter, shorter.'"

By the time we moved back to Miami in the 1970's Mary Quant's mini-skirts were popular from one coast to the next, even in Oklahoma. Rose designed and sewed, mini-dresses for me, with matching underwear.  I worked at the public library by now and couldn't afford to look sexy or like I was showing anything personal!

Asked by the Guardian newspaper in 1967 if her clothes could be considered "vulgar" because they were so revealing, Quant replied that she loved vulgarity and embraced it. 
Her clothes became wildly popular and were worn by models such as Twiggy and Pattie Boyd, who was then married to Beatles guitarist George Harrison. 
"Snobbery has gone out of fashion, and in our shops you will find duchesses jostling with typists to buy the same dress." Quant once said. She called her shop "a sophisticated candy store for grown-ups." 

Mary Quant was correct. Wearing the newest styles made me feel like a grown-up, and my body was young and trim. 

After the decade of the 1970's, I kept only one outfit from those years, and have cherished those memories each time I clean or rearrange my closet and find the one bedazzling Beatle-mania-mini-skirt/dress that Rose made for me one New Year's.  wore it a few times and then covered it in plastic and hung it in my closest, as I moved around in my life. 



One day two years ago (when Murphy was a puppy), our granddaughter, Ruth Ann wanted to play dress-up and I said go for it. We pulled out a few old costumes and then found the bedazzling mini still wrapped in cleaners plastic. I ripped off the plastic and set the dress on the bed.  Before long Ruth Ann had brought Mary Quant back to life. For over an hour she wore that dress and played with jewelry and hats from my stash of fun clothing.  I know she enjoyed the day, but I think I enjoyed it even more.

I still can't keep my eyes off the dress and the length it is on her as opposed to the length it showed on me. All smiles....


Vintage clothing from Etsy  plaid Elephant pant
Mini-skirts 1960's

Born: February 11, 1930, Blackheath, London, United Kingdom
Died: April 13, 2023, Surrey, United Kingdom

***  I only wish I had had a camera to take photos of my daughter, Katy, when she wore my mini's as a child.