Monday, August 26, 2019

Two Little Girls

Helen, Letty, Jonya, Johnie Stapp c. 1953 

There were two little girls
  A blue-eyed beauty
Who danced like a whirling gig and sang for the folks.

There were two little girls
  A green-eyed child
Who galloped like a horse and pretended to be a circus flyer.

Letty Stapp with Sherry Cantrell  c. 1955 on E. st SE, Miami, Ok

There were two little girls
   One blue-eyed little girl
Whose dark curly dangled and danced all over her head
She smiled and giggled and brought
  Joy to the world.

There were two little girls
  The other a green-eyed little girl
Whose light brown hair bounced like a butterfly.
The sun and heat graced her face
  When she pretended to be Tarzan.

Jonya, Dad, Letty  Long Beach, California c.1961

There were two little girls
  One with curls
Who loved playing with dolls; paper dolls, Tony dolls, and rosy cheeked baby dolls.
  On the stage they felt no fear.

There were two little girls
  One without curls
Who raced little cars through dirt and sand, and
Built houses out of blocks and furniture out of sticks.
  Through competition they learned fear and accomplishment.

Letty and Jonya, Prairie Dunes c. 2010

There were two little girls whose lives drifted apart
One learned a new language and found beauty in Spain
  And her calling in Spanish, a teacher she became.

Jonya in Antigua, Guatemala 2018

The other discovered books and traveled the world through words
   And felt the call of a library, a storytelling teacher she became.

 
There were two little girls, curious little girls
Together they bounced through roaring streams and ocean currents;
  Gathered sea shells, rocks, leaves, and baby bunnies;
  Chased fireflies and listened to the evening echo of locusts.
Their curious love of nature centered their lives.

There were two little girls maturing through adventures,
  Through pain and loss.
Jack and Letty at Texas State Fair, 2017


Families they raised and shared their hearts with loved ones.
One year they lost their parents, and old secrets lost their hold.
Their worlds spun but not without control.
  The blue-eyed brunette grew to fairy tale stature with
  Flowing curly hair the color of arctic ice,
Shirts of every color danced around her feet.
Her radiant smile and lyrical stories charm those around her.

Bill and Jonya cruising 2017



The green-eyed sister changed glasses by color and shapes,
  Much like her Miss Clairol hair.
She loved the laughter of children and people at play
And turned to the golf course where she lost her worries among the trees.


Letty c. 2017


There were two little girls, aging like good wine
  Who, one day, found themselves looking in the mirror
Laughing as curls the color of silver and ice danced and dangled around their faces.
And right in the middle of their foreheads curls bounced as they giggled at themselves.
Their hearts filled with love, a passion for life, thanks to their parents and the world that raised the two little girls.

Jonya and Letty, c 2016


**Dedicated to our parents Helen and Johnie Stapp who died August 26, 1989 and October 21, 1989 respectively, and to our families and friends, past and present who helped to raise two strong women.

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

Younger Longer with Confidence

"It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves." Sir Edmund Hillary

The day came in my early 60's when I realized that golf would not be a sport I played till I aged because of my crooked spine.  The thought of giving up mornings filled with fresh air on a golf course, birds flying by, clouds rolling over, and the echo of friends laughing broke my spirit. My husband took me by the hand and said, "I think we can both take up fishing and it won't hurt our backs."  The smile of relief is hard to describe without a few tears falling. Just like that I could see a future.

"A naughty pickle is how I best describe myself. 
I think fun and laughter is the whole point of life." 
Celia Imrie

I bought fishing poles at a silent auction, proudly brought them home and promptly put them in the garage next to my golf clubs. The fishing poles are still in the garage, but some inner drive moved me to continue golf. Luckily, I took up yoga and Pilates gaining strength and flexibility over the next two years. When I played in tournaments I played with new zeal,  knowing each round could be my last.

"You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them." Michael Jordan 


During the fall of 2013 I pulled my right hamstring causing pain in my lower back, but thinking I could overcome I continued to push. During January-February of 2014 we packed all of our belongings, hired a moving company and moved from Hutchinson, KS to Norman, OK. I hurt so much I cried when I bent over, walked, slept, or sat down. I still played golf because this ugly voice in my head said that I could play through the pain, after all physical therapy would allow me relief. 

For the next four years I enjoyed intermittent relief from my back pain, and discovered that over the years many of my "butt" muscles no longer responded to my body movement. Atrophy is the word that describes what happens when muscles aren't used. By now my brains screamed, "How could my muscles atrophy when I worked them constantly?" The answer is, "a different set of muscles take over, and that does not mean it's a good thing." Most of all don't play through pain, fix it. Last fall I realized that my golf swing had become that of a little old lady. There was no power at impact. I felt limp and shrunken. New clubs couldn't help that. 

"I am not a has-been. I am a will be." Lauren Bacall

Besides having lost strength, power, endurance, I lost confidence. I lost a bucket load of confidence. When I came to a water hole on the golf course I found myself playing around it, instead of daring to fly a ball over it. Secretly, I cried. Openly, I smiled and said, "At least I'm still playing and this is a good thing." 
Go for it, or layup? OU golf course hole 13.

I accepted that my body and I were getting older together. Like watching our dog, Lucy, turn grey in the face, unable to hear voices, and walk with a left hip that sometimes drags or pinches her, I could feel a slower future coming.   

The difference between impossible and possible lies
 in a person's determination." Tommy Lasorda

The dead of winter is just that for my body. I tend to hibernate and write. January of this year a deep yearning and stirring came through me when I decided to write a monthly blog called YOUNGER LONGER. I believe deeply in myself and my fortitude.  It forced me out of the house and into Therapy in Motion (Cindy Merrick).  After four months of muscle by muscle being released and activated I knew I could play golf successfully again. WRONG! 

I promise a smile that will never leave your face after watching this. 

Many bad habits had been created in these last few years and I felt stymied. I know the game inside and out and yet for all of my strength, stamina, and grit I could not improve my game. My scores ranged from 96--88. Thanks to a vigorous workout routine that I still follow five days a week, plus play golf in this heat, I knew that could swing the club with power. In one simple golf lesson with our pro, Alan Hager, I relief flow through my body. Darn those weak lazy hands and arms. Once I began to use strong firm arms at impact the ball went straight and farther, and best of all I felt my old dynamic swing return. Alan also adjusted my driver to a 9.5 face (more upright) giving me a chance to see that tiny white (sometime pink) ball roll down the fairway.

"Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.      e e cummings

Feeling the groove return I drove out to OU golf facility to practice, and it paid off with a victory. The confidence to know I can better take care of myself, through continued training and practice will continue, only if i continue to workout. 

Having confidence is showing confidence and acting on confidence. When there is no confidence on the journey life looks bleak.  Letty Stapp Watt