Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Fairy Land Trails and Tales


Fairy hiding

As a child growing up, I not only believed in fairies, I knew they existed for two reasons: One, a dime or nickel miraculously appeared under my pillow when I lost a tooth, and my parents who never lied told me that it came from the tooth fairy. Two, when we drove to Wichita, Kansas from Miami, Oklahoma to visit grandparents, we often drove through Augusta, Kansas late at night when the refineries would be filled with twinkling lights from the light bulbs once used to define the work space. Each time we drove by my mother would remind me or even wake me to show me where the fairies lived.



I only questioned those facts when I wished I had a fairy godmother, like Cinderella's godmother, or a playmate fairy like Thumbelina, but none would appear. After watching The Wizard of Oz each spring I decided I needed to be braver and wish for a Good Witch like Glenda. Clicking my heels together didn't seem to create magic unless I truly believed in my wish. 






Over the years, I told stories about finding fairies in the clover patches when we would spend the afternoons searching for magical four-leaf clovers, but, of course, those were imaginative stories, just like the story I told when I saw Santa fly over one night. I believed. Isn't that enough?

In my twenties I learned to "officially" tell stories at the public library for children, and on my own as a paid teller. In reflection, I realized that the very first story I learned was about a vain young man who was given three wishes by the devil, who disguised himself as a fairy godmother. Stories of wishes and tricksters became my trademark stories. 

Another decade passed and one day in 1983 Jack and I found ourselves standing in front of a quaint fairy shaped Wedding Chapel--The Little Church of the West, where my parents married in 1946.  As we approached the front door, nerves tingled on the back of our necks, or maybe it was the whisper of a fairy telling us our wishes for a happy successful marriage would be granted, only if we worked at it.  




Our children grew up. One by one they left home and created healthy happy homes of their own. (Some wishes and a whole lot of prayers do come true). 
 
One day, this spring of Covid 19, my daughter and I decided to meet for a clandestine picnic at Will Rogers Park. Oh, our secret meeting tickled me because we had not seen each other nor hugged in over six weeks. Dis ease or no disease we needed our hugs. We needed our love in person. We held our picnic in the amphitheater and shared our stories of the last few weeks of travels and fears. Then we walked. 

We walked up to the area covered by gardens. In the quiet undisturbed park we caught sight of the strangest tiny doors hidden under trees and some set aside like a community of fairy villages. On our knees we touched doors, took pictures, and whispered to the diminutive fairies inside. "Hello, you have visitors."
Romantic hideout for fairies.















Gnome homes




Giggling with our private time to tour  the "fairy land trails" we caught ourselves running like children from tree to tree looking for the next fairy tree house. We lost count of the fairy doors.




Toadstool cottage. 

Curiosity took over the day and we forgot for
a few hours about our fear the unknown, about a killer named Covid. 
 











Maybe fairies need a dentist, too?


Our biggest surprise came in the form of a giant chair, that could only fit the Giant who takes care of the park. That might take a late night tour, as I know that the giants and trolls in Norway only come out at night. I think we will choose to believe that  giants exists, and not go searching for them. 



Not having seen everything, we decided that we would return in two weeks when more flowers might be in bloom and more fairy land trails might be discovered.


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Tuesday, May 12, 2020

The Weight of Words




The box of memories, like hope, dutifully followed her over the decades from dwelling to dwelling:
     From I street to Park street;
     From Park street to Fairview;
     From Fairview to Nebraska street;
     From Nebraska street to Hal Muldrow Drive.

The box grew heavier year by year, memories blurred, and she wondered how words and sentences of thoughts, ideas, dreams, nightmares, fears, truths and lies could become so heavy to carry.


"The butterfly counts not the months but the
 moments and has time enough. " Tagore 
(note found in journals) 

Once when the box filled, she thoughtfully found a bigger heavier box for the words and sentences of happiness, disappointments, heartaches, joys, frustrations, love, and pure delight in life.  The sturdy box continued to follow her, like a shadow needing a home, as it traveled:
     From Hal Muldrow Drive to Canterbury;
     From Canterbury to Baltic Avenue;
     From Baltic Avenue to Quivira Drive.

Stashed in a far corner of closet the box seemed all but forgotten. Her words continued to tell stories from her heart, ask questions, retell moments with an author's chosen words, decode feelings, describe travels and dreams. Seeking help and understanding from the words she wrote, she drew, she cut and pasted uplifting quotes, pictures and art work that told her stories. 


"The flower looks up high to see the light
and never looks down to see it's shadow." 
(note in her journals) 

One last time that brown corrugated box lined with memories and filled with journals traveled from Quivira Drive to Guilford, where it sat on a shelf never quite out of sight. The brown box sat like an tree stump on the shelves of the curio closet among the puppets, artwork, books, and pictures. Once she thought to decorate the box creating a collage of her life, her family, friends, and travels. That began the argument in her head, why decorate it, why keep it?

Spring came along with a terrifying virus that forced her to think deeply about life and death. The box was a burden she no longer needed. One day while carefully balanced on the ladder, she tilted the box toward the floor, and let years of journals tumble down, then she slowly removed the box from the shelf. In her head she heard the joyous lyrics, "Let it go, let it go, can't hold it back anymore..."





Now it was the corrugated elephant in the room, she could no longer hide it nor avoid it. 

The guidelines were created.
  No rereading. 
  No reliving. 
  Glance only. 
  Acknowledge.
  Tear and trash. 

She cheated a few times. Took notes from travels they had taken, scribbled a few dates and memorable moments that made her laugh again and whispered "Yes."

With each trip to the trash bin she felt her shoulders ease until at last fifty years of journals were gone. She stood alone in the back yard smiling as the birds chirped at the feeders, the doves cooed and the Cardinals squabbled. Her thoughts spread in a smile across her face. 

"Our lives become rich
without baggage from the past."
(note found in her journals)


*Dedicated to my sister Jonya, who said about her journals, "I do not need to read them. I have already lived that life!"


Other posts by Literally Letty with similar themes:



Tuesday, May 5, 2020

SupHer Power Golf Warm-Ups On the Go

Patty Berg clinic, with Dave Marsh Wilson Rep, Mickey Mantle NY Yankees, and Johnie Stapp, PGA pro,Miami, Ok. Country Club  c 1956


As the daughter of a Professional golfer, growing up in the fifties and sixties the idea of physical stretching before teeing of was unheard of, with the exception of Patty Berg, who visited our Miami Country Club in the 1950's as a Wilson Club representative. She concentrated on helping women play golf with the sole purpose of seeing women 'invade the fairways.' 

Long before Miguel Angel Jimenez's hip movement stretches made the sports news, Patty danced and stretched, all the while talking to the crowd about golf, about sports, about travels, anything to make us laugh and love her even more. Her dance type moves allowed her body to maintain the fluidity needed to swing for the crowd. So rather than do precise stretches to stay loose, she moved her body and limbs repeatedly, allowing her play amazing golf.

Patty Berg, Early Professional Years

The last few Friday evenings during our Covid 19 stay home stay safe season of life, I have been fortunate to join the Virtual Play Day golf clinics given by SupHer Power Golf for Women.

April Kenyon, Dr. Beth Brown, Coach Nancy McDaniel


My golfer's mind and body have benefited from each program, and perhaps mentally benefited the most from the much needed pre-game warm-up routine that Nancy McDaniel offers each week at the beginning of an episode.  Without being physically and mentally prepared to play golf we often set ourselves up for failure until our bodies begin to sync with the rhythm of the golf swing.

The first clinic when I heard Coach Nancy (Hall of Fame Women's Coach for Cal Berkeley) describe the urgent need to stretch before jogging to the first tee with barely in time to tee off, I laughed and thought to myself, “That might just be what I need.” The mental connection she gave me was to give myself the grace to play the first few holes at 85%, to lighten up on myself. By incorporating these suggested quick stretches the back can loosen up, allowing each of us to swing with less stress on our muscles.
Coach Nancy, twisting the upper torso.

We have all been guilty of arriving for our tee times with minutes to throw the clubs on the cart and head off to the first tee. Here is what Nancy suggests:

    * Before leaving the space of the car, inside or out, close off all communication with the outside work/family world.  Take a deep inhale pushing the belly muscles out like an inner tube, being sure to keep the shoulders heavy and low beneath the ears. Once helps, but 2-3 times is better. 

     *Jog slightly or take giant steps to the cart, gathering area, or first tee. Get the blood to flow, and give yourself the gift of the warm up stretches.

   
Hayden stretching her wrists after working
on her computer all day for her college
classes. 
     *If putting is a weakness or concern because of tension in the upper body, then begin with neck circles, wrists and arm flexes being sure to use the core muscles to hold the balance. This helps to release tension of the day and to alleviate golfers/tennis elbow. 


Coach Nancy hip/piriformis stretch.

     *On the tee box or as the group gathers to hand out scorecards, explain that you can talk and listen while stretching. Then pick a routine for stretching that fits your body's needs, such as starting at the top down.  As for me, I often begin (in the middle) with the piriformis stretch (think letter 4). My hips and hamstrings are tight. This stretch I can do near the golf cart holding on for balance, if I am running that late. Then I continue down the legs with the hamstring stretch and end with some kind of arm or core body twist.  



     *Overall movement might begin with top rotation and work downwards. 
Hayden Meiser, OBU Girls Golf Team


Leg swing back and forth. 
For instance, stand on one leg using something for balance and swing the free leg back and forth. This loosens the hips. Then begin to engage the torso with various twists.




Hayden stretching inner thigh allowing
greater rotation. 











   








  *Make sure to perform one to three squats to activate the glutes. It doesn’t require a rotation of 10x10x10. Simply start in a golfer’s stance then release arms into a squat, hold for a couple of seconds and repeat. This is not the gym, it is stretching on the go.   
Coach Nancy McDaniel in the
squat position using a club
for balance. 


   *To help with balance and swing movement place your hands across the chest, with a golfers stance and posture swing the body back and through. It is important to finish with ‘spikes up’ and body in balance.





    *If you cannot finish a top to bottom round of stretches before teeing off, then step off the golf cart when others are hitting their next shot, and stretch at every opportunity, until you feel free to swing through to the target, 'spikes up' as Nancy calls it. 

  
'Spikes up' helps with the follow through. 



Remember to modify as needed for your body's needs, abilities, or aches/pains, and to provide your body with plenty of water. The brain is more responsive when it is nursed by water rather than drained, feeling dehydrated, and unable to think.

The first time you hit a great shot, sink a putt, or chip like a pro, do the Patty Berg dance of celebration to anchor the greatness of the moment and to continue to keep the body vibrant and loose.


***For more information on SupHer Power Golf for Women please contact one of the following team members:

April Kenyon <april@supHerpowergolf.com
Nancy McDaniel <nancy@supHerpowergolf.com
Beth Brown <beth@supHerpowergolf.com

SupHer Power Golf for Women This is the Landing Page for future courses and events provided by SupHer Power Golf. 

For other golf tips/ health tips click on the links below:

Finding Balance

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c. Letty Watt,
historian, golfer